Well well, it’s been quite a while since I last posted, hasn’t it? Well as some of you might know, I decided to take a little bit of time out from sewing for the most beautiful reason, I am now Mum to two wonderful, beautiful little girls.
This is Mini-Mini. She arrived in a hurry, a few days before I was expecting her, and was born in my bedroom with minimal fuss (and no pain relief).
I had planned for a home birth (a water birth, but we weren’t ready – that’s two little Leos who didn’t want to get wet), and I was lucky enough to have a wonderful Doula who was on call and there for me when Mini-Mini decided it was time to arrive, and who did everything to make sure I was comfortable, positive and empowered. If you’ve ever considered hiring a doula for your birth, I highly recommend it, she supported us both through the whole journey and I truly believe I wouldn’t have had such a beautiful experience without her.
They do say second babies are easier – and whilst I know every baby is different, this little girl has definitely reflected back all the positive emotions I’ve felt. With the first baby, you’re filled with worry, anxiety and exhaustion, and whilst the exhaustion still continues, it’s much easier to relax knowing that you’re doing your best, and the baby will be okay.
Having a home birth was amazing, even though (as most births are want to do), it didn’t go exactly as we’d planned. Being able to lie in bed with this strange, beautiful little creature was so restorative and healing, and it even but at rest any worries and residual anxiety from my first birth, and made me feel so confident and happy to start my journey as a double-mum.
From the beginning, she’s been a very different child to her sister. She’s calm, alert, relaxed. She’s bottle-fed and has a dummy, I don’t know if that makes a difference, but she’s learned early to soothe herself (mainly because she’s had to, Mini is demanding). She’s now nearly eight months old, is sitting up, has two tiny teeth and has inherited my appetite and love for food.
This time around – I’ve let go, I’ve relaxed. She’s a very sociable baby because she’s used to being passed around and cuddled. She sleeps in her cot (not on me), and is happy to sit and play with her toys on her own. She’s about to start one day at nursery a week and I have no worries that she won’t be absolutely fine.
Of course, teething wasn’t much fun, and there’s more to come, but she’s dealt with it as best she can. Her poops are voluminous and stinky, but that’s all I have to complain about. The most wonderful thing is seeing the look on her face when she sees her sister. There’s four years and two days between them, I know in the future they might not get on (I don’t talk to my own sister, unfortunately), but for now they love each other, and you can see it in their eyes, and that’s the most you can hope for as a mum.
She’s still a little baldy, I’ll wait to see if she gets the curly hair her sister has, but for now she’s covered in white-blonde fluff, which is so cute. I love her little peachy head.
We’re enjoying post-natal/baby yoga, and we’re back at our acapella singing group, Thula Mama, which I highly recommend – check out a group in your area if you can. I’m returning to work (boo), at the end of this month, and she’s being looked after by her family whilst I’m working.
Unfortunately, when she was just eight weeks old, her Dad decided that he didn’t want to have a relationship with us any more. Yeah. That was hard. He’s still a big part of her life, and he has stepped up and is now looking after her twice a week, but it was a big adjustment for the girls, and I’d be lying if I said it was plain sailing. But part of being a mum is rising to the challenges, and refocusing on your children when things don’t go to plan. I didn’t want things to go this way, but in the end, I’m glad they did. I’m happier than I’ve ever been.
Children give you strength, they’re resilient, tenacious little creatures and they help you through the worst times if you let them. I’ve tried hard to focus on the positives in my life, and it’s hard not to when you’ve got two sets of beautiful blue eyes looking at you.
So the sewing had to take a back seat for just a little while, taking some time to really focus on the girls was great, but now I feel like it’s good for me to have some time for myself, and sewing really helps me to keep my head screwed on.
I’m doing really well, I’m back at work soon and I’m attending Slimming World – so slowly shifting the baby weight, I’ve dropped one and a half stone, still got quite a way to go but I’m happy. Of course, another huge change in my life has been meeting, or should I say reconnecting with, my incredible girlfriend. We’ve been together for four months, and I’m still constantly taken aback by her astounding beauty, warmth, compassion and understanding. I have never felt so loved by a proper, grown-up person. As she’ll no doubt read this, I’ll leave it there, but things are very good.
As for Mini? Well, she’s still Mini…
Still the same person she always was. She’s at school now, in Reception class and doing really well. She also lost a tooth the same week as her sister grew a pair, which was unexpected, but lovely.
So there you go, there’s about all that’s happening in my life at the moment, and I’ll be back on with a few projects over the next few weeks. I’ve missed sewing and I’m excited to get started again.